I am one of those people who can look and sound outgoing, extrovert, and happy-go-lucky, but can end up being very quiet and want to be left alone sometimes.
Here are 23 signs to check if you are a secret introvert! I don't know about you, but I fit so many signs that it creeps me out. Haha.
1. You find small talk incredibly cumbersome.
-Introverts are notoriously small talk-phobic, as they find idle chatter to be a source of anxiety, or at least annoyance. For many quiet types, chitchat can feel disingenuous.
For me it depends really if I'm trying to get to know that person or not. If I'm already tired then this would be true as I would prefer silence. ;)
2.You go to parties -– but not to meet people.
-If you're an introvert, you may sometimes enjoy going to parties, but chances are, you're not going because you're excited to meet new people. At a party, most introverts would rather spend time with people they already know and feel comfortable around.
Again it depends, but yeah, most of the time I rather spend time with friends than trying to make new ones.
3. You often feel alone in a crowd.
-Ever feel like an outsider in the middle of social gatherings and group activities, even with people you know?
Millions of times. Sometimes I just don't connect, and that's it.
4. Networking makes you feel like a phony.
-Networking (read: small-talk with the end goal of advancing your career) can feel particularly disingenuous for introverts, who crave authenticity in their interactions.
Yes. To me, friendships and connections should be because one genuinely likes the other, and not for any personal gain.
5. You've been called "too intense."
-Do you have a penchant for philosophical conversations and a love of thought-provoking books and movies? If so, you're a textbook introvert.
Sometimes. Or rather people say I think too much. What do you want me to do? I observe in silence.
-While extroverts tend to get bored easily when they don't have enough to do, introverts have the opposite problem -- they get easily distracted and overwhelmed in environments with an excess of stimulation.
Yes. I like stuff to be interesting, but I get overwhelmed with too many things and will be unable to focus properly.
7. Downtime doesn’t feel unproductive to you.
-One of the most fundamental characteristics of introverts is that they need time alone to recharge their batteries. This sort of down time feels necessary and satisfying to an introvert.
Yes. Silent time is a way to connect with my inner self so that I can get all my circuits right again and function better.
8. Giving a talk in front of 500 people is less stressful than having to mingle with those people afterwards.
-Introverts don't necessarily shy away from the spotlight. Instead, an introvert might struggle more with meeting and greeting large groups of people on an individual basis.
Absolutely. Having to talk to each one of them is more stressful than to present something I already know, because giving a talk is actually just like talking to myself.
9. When you get on the subway, you sit at the end of the bench -– not in the middle.
-Whenever possible, introverts tend to avoid being surrounded by people on all sides. They are likely to sit in places where they can get away when they're ready to easily.
Definitely! Even at restaurants and so on, I'd rather find a corner and not in the middle. Having everyone around me is overwhelming.
10. You start to shut down after you’ve been active for too long.
-Do you start to get tired and unresponsive after you've been out and about for too long? It's likely because you’re trying to conserve energy. Short of a quiet place to go, many introverts will resort to zoning out.
This is like the most correct sign ever. I do that all the time. After a lot of talking and laughing for the whole day, I just shut up afterward and listen to others talking instead. My friends will always, always go: "Are you okay? Why are you so silent?"
11. You're in a relationship with an extrovert.
-It's true that opposites attract, and introverts frequently gravitate towards outgoing extroverts who encourage them to have fun and not take themselves too seriously.
Used to be. Unfortunately, yeah, opposites do attract. But someone too extroverted will drain all my energy away, so it's not really a good thing.
12. You'd rather be an expert at one thing than try to do everything.
-The dominant brain pathways introverts use is one that allows you to focus and think about things for a while, so they’re geared toward intense study and developing expertise.
Hmm yes. I ruled it down to perfectionism though. If I can I'll try to be an expert on everything :P
13. You actively avoid any shows that might involve audience participation.
-Yes! I'm scared of those. I'd rather not go up front, thank you very much.
14. You screen all your calls -- even from friends.
-You may not pick up your phone even from people you like, but you’ll call them back as soon as you’re mentally prepared and have gathered the energy for the conversation.
HAHA. Yes. I mostly pick up friends' calls though. But if it's an unknown number, chances are I'll just ignore the call. But if you're a friend and you suddenly need to talk, I might need a few minutes trying to structure an answer.
15. You notice details that others don't.
-The upside of being overwhelmed by too much stimuli is that introverts often have a keen eye for detail, noticing things that may escape others around them.
Yes. It weirds me out that some other people don't notice what I notice. I keep my eyes and ears open even though I'm doing something.
16. You have a constantly running inner monologue.
-“Extroverts don’t have the same internal talking as we do,” says Olsen Laney. “Most introverts need to think first and talk later."
True. I do. I don't literally talk to myself, but thoughts run inside my head all the time.
17. You have low blood pressure.
-A 2006 Japanese study found that introverts tend to have lower blood pressure than their extroverted counterparts.
Yes I do!
18. You’ve been called an “old soul” -– since your 20s.
-Introverts observe and take in a lot of information, and they think before they speak, leading them to appear wise to others.
I'm not 20s yet, and I've never been called "old soul", mostly because I don't really talk philosophy with others. I keep my thoughts to myself. And also sometimes I have no idea things that I've been wondering about are actually valid. For example I didn't know I've been thinking about "quantum physics" since forever. I didn't know that the theory is called QP.
19. You don't feel "high" from your surroundings.
-Neurochemically speaking, things like huge parties just aren’t your thing. Extroverts and introverts differ significantly in how their brains process experiences through "reward" centers.
It depends. Sometimes I do if I'm really happy at that moment. If I don't feel happy/comfortable with the situation, then no.
20. You look at the big picture.
-When describing the way that introverts think, Jung explained that they're more interested in ideas and the big picture rather than facts and details. Of course, many introverts excel in detail-oriented tasks -- but they often have a mind for more abstract concepts as well.
I look toward the future and the overall idea. But I fuss over details too, so maybe this point doesn't apply. And for abstract concepts: I hate mathematical concepts. I love concepts like the very existence of life though. ;)
-Introverted adults often say that as children, they were told to come out of their shells or participate more in class.
Yes when I'm silent and not actually participating in the conversation. I am out of shell though, I'm just observing and listening attentively.
22. You alternate between phases of work and solitude, and periods of social activity.
-This may manifest in introverts as going through periods of heightened social activity, and then balancing it out with a period of inwardness and solitude.
Yes. Sometimes I hang around with people, have fun and just be crazy, and then when the feelings subside I go home and shut myself in a room and do my own thing.
23. You're a writer.
-Introverts are often better at communicating in writing than in person, and many are drawn to the solitary, creative profession of writing. Most introverts say that they feel most creatively charged when they have time to be alone with their thoughts.
Yes! Obviously. I love writing. I love putting out my thoughts on paper because I have too many of them running around in my mind. I love having them all out on something that I can read and make sense of. I love words!
-Reposted from HERE.
I scored about 20/23!
Weird right? OMG. How about you guys? :)
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