Principles of Letting Go and Moving On

Travelling to someplace new is always very interesting. Not only we can get to know different cultures and people and such, but also learn of new knowledge that was previously not known to us. During my trip to Vietnam there was this interesting temple where people came to worship. 

They had a basket of free brochures which I took and glanced through out of boredom, but which caught my attention because it spoke of a way to let go of things that you couldn't let go, things that have already happened. It's sort of a way to get you into the right mindset and realize that letting go and opening your heart is difficult but not impossible, and it is all down to a change of your way of thinking. ;)

I'm not sure if it's effective for you, but it's worth sharing. Who knows, it might be able to help all of you out there who can't let go of a difficult situation. 

The Four Principles of Letting Go and Moving On

1st Principle: 
“Whomever you encounter is the right one”
This means that no one comes into our life by chance. Everyone who is around us, anyone with whom we interact, represents something whether to teach us something or to help us improve a situation.

(You don't get to know someone randomly, even if it seems random. There is an order in life, and there is a reason behind why you are close with this particular person and not that other person. So the next time you think "why does this person has to come into my life at all?", know that it is for a reason, and see if there's anything you can learn from him or her, even though they may hurt you in the process.)

2nd Principle: 
“Whatever happened is the only thing that could have happened”
Absolutely nothing of that which we experienced could have been any other way. Not even in the least important detail. There is no “if only I had done that differently… then it would have been different”. No, what happened is the only thing that could have taken place and must have take place for us to learn a lesson in order to move forward. Every situation in life which we encounter is absolutely perfect, even when it defies our understanding and our ego.

(There is no what-ifs. We all act accordingly to what we feel and think at that moment, and we could not have done otherwise, no matter what. If it is supposed to happen, it will happen no matter what you said. The next time you think "if it's not going to work out, why did it happen anyway?", think of the lessons you have learnt from this situation.)

3rd Principle: 
“Each moment in which something begins is the right moment”
Everything begins at exactly the right moment, neither earlier nor later. When we are ready for it, for that something new in our life, it is there, ready to begin.

(Sometimes we feel that if only this happens earlier, or later, then things would have been different. No. There is no space for such thoughts. The moment is correct, even if it seems wrong. Why? Maybe you're looking from a different perspective. The situation serves for you to learn a lesson, not to complete in perfection. It goes wrong because it is meant to go wrong. The timing is wrong because it was supposed to be wrong. Therefore it is correct.)

The Final Principle: 
“What is over, is over”
It is that simple. When something in our life ends, it helps our evolution. That is why, enriched by the recent experience, it is better to let go and move on.

(The situation has served its purpose. Even if something gets lost, that thing will return if it is meant to be, and if it is not, then it was only there to lead to the situation. Don't fret over it. Move on. You might not be happier after the experience, which may be especially bad/painful/embarrassing/heartbreaking, but you are certainly a better, more experienced person after it.)

Did it help you? Let me know! ;)